As I dined at a restaurant with my goddess and a friend, I felt a hand rest discreetly on my leg under the table. The hand belonged to my goddess, who continued eating and talking innocently the whole time. I excitedly anticipated the hand moving upward. When it eventually did, I got more and more aroused. I was nervous that our friend across the table or others in the restaurant would detect what was going on, but at the same time I was enjoying it. My heart was racing and I was extremely turned on by the time her hand touched my private area.
This is an example of kino. Kino can be used for many things, from establishing a friendly connection to creating sexual excitement.
When two people first meet, kino should start as light, casual touching. You may greet by shaking hands as you’re introduced by a mutual acquaintance, pat the back or put an arm around a shoulder during a casual greeting, lightly touch your conversation partner’s shoulder while making a point, rub an arm to offer comfort, or give a light, playful hit in response to a joke or lighthearted teasing. These are examples of how to build a bond with a friend or date using kino.
As a pair get more comfortable with each other and learn each other’s boundaries, they get more adventurous with their touching. Light touching turns to heavier physical contact, until both parties are caressing and eventually groping. Kino is used this way to say, “Let’s get it on!”
When using kino, watch for the woman’s reaction. You don’t want to come across as creepy, inappropriate or overly aggressive. That will turn her off and could even land you a spot in jail next to a bunch of sweaty, muscle-bound cellmates. The key to using kino to get the results you want is to start with brief touches that seem almost accidental, such as slight taps on the arm or shoulder. If she doesn’t seem uncomfortable or pull away, or if she returns the touches, this shows she’s open and receptive to your touches. As you two grow closer, you should gradually lengthen each touch and escalate the level of touching according to your comfort level and hers.
You can even use kino to show a woman that you’re confident. If you take her firmly – but never tightly or roughly – by the hand or arm and give a slight tug, she’ll see you as a guy who’s capable of taking control of a situation when needed. This is especially effective when your reason for taking her hand or arm is to guide her through a crowded space. Take extra care if you try this technique. Be gentle and polite about it, and never yank her hard, or it can backfire.
What are some ways you use kino to establish friendships, get dates, etc? Don’t forget to tell us about your not-so-good physical moments also.